How to Approach Others
3:57 pm in Swingers Advice by admin
It is important to keep an open mind when approaching and being approached. It is perfectly okay to decline an offer to engage in sex as well as to be declined. Not everyone will be into the same things, nor will they be attracted to everyone. When you are approached with an offer you are not interested in, simply say no and move on. It is perfectly acceptable to expect this in return. By keeping everything light and respectable, more people are able to have a good time. When you force your desires on other people, they will not be able to enjoy the action.
If you are unsure of what kind of activities you will enjoy, it is a good idea to go to a swingers club. This way you can try a few different things as well as talk to swingers. You can really get a feel for what you are comfortable with and what you are excited to try. By meeting other swingers, you may open up new avenues of sexuality you were not previously aware you were open to. Try to keep an open mind, but at all times be honest with yourself and those around you. This will prevent hurt feelings and from having a negative experience.
If you find yourself involved in a private swinger party at a home or other venue, it is important to bring the right supplies with you. This will make it possible for you to fully enjoy the swinging scene as well as cover all of your bases should someone not remember to bring something like a lubricant or a condom. It is of course bad manners not to bring a condom to a swinging party, but some people are absent minded. Make sure you are not the one on everyones bad side and bring the appropriate items to the party. This way you will be able to have all the fun you want to without having to worry about borrowing anything from the others at the party. Having fun is why you are doing this, so do everything you can to protect your ability to have fun.